this 15 seconds is better than the entire pour it up video
"you leave me careless, i like it."
"It is not yours to push. You’re not his life coach. You’re not her personal trainer. You’re not mom. Position yourself on the same team—encouraging, supporting, celebrating, yes. Demanding? No. That creates a power dynamic that eventually becomes toxic and corrodes the integrity of your relationship.
When you find yourself becoming the teacher, check your motivations and rephrase. How can you encourage with tender and gracious love?
Your love will become freedom. You have this one role in your partner’s evolution: to hold the space, to fill it with love and safety and, simultaneously, the encouragement to expand—and your love will become their freedom.
Freedom to be exactly where they are on the path and to take the journey that is right at that moment and in that time. Freedom to fall. To screw up. And to try again, with unflinching faith in their own potential.
And that freedom, ultimately, is the only path to the highest self. “
So many gems in this article. Gems from hard lessons that grew me. And still growing me.
Be yourself. Follow both your good and your bad instincts.
In my experience most people’s good instincts are remarkably similar, while their bad instincts are often particular. By embracing your good and bad ideas and impulses, by figuring out how to incorporate them into your life and your work, you somehow become more yourself. Plus, you’ll probably end up in unfamiliar territory, a place that will engage you in ways you can’t imagine, make you feel more alive.
I actually had to read that first line twice.
I’ve never heard anyone actually advise people to follow their bad instincts. What kind of work can one create when following what they know to be against his/her better judgment?
hmm this is good. fucking up is essential to the human experience. this is how we *know* ourselves. this is how we are better.
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